The post-nup solution

the long version

"Tom Gardiner, a Chicago lawyer, explains how post-nuptial agreements can address marital problems effectively. This book talks about agreements that will result in long-term change. You both agree in a legally binding document about the changes that need to occur--and the consequences if they don't. If the behavior is not changed and divorce is triggered, the terms are set when the parties both seek to save the marriage--not when they're going through an acrimonious break-up. These terms are usually reasonable and fair because the spouses are seeking a solution at the time. This book covers financial problems, drinking, drug use, cheating, stepchildren, in-law problems, inheritance, religious issues, and so on. It is a book not just for couples, but for therapists, religious leaders, and others who seek to make marriages stronger and divorces civilized and fair"--