Divorcing smartly

the long version

Divorce doesn't have to be devastating. Reject the idea that you'll be damaged by the process. In fact, if you do it right, you'll grow from the experience. You'll start your new life better than you were before. Divorce is difficult. There's no avoiding the emotional, financial, and legal challenges associated with divorce. Each member of the family will be marked by the experience in one way or another. What we've learned, through working with thousands of families going through divorce, is that some people come out of the experience devastated. For them, wallowing in the aftermath for years becomes the norm. Their divorce impacts their day-to-day life for decades after the end of the marriage. Many of these people never let go of the negativity surrounding the end of their marriage. Other people have a different experience of divorce. These people move on to live bigger and better lives. They're happier, healthier, and more prosperous than in the past. How is it that people can be impacted so differently by a divorce? We're not experts in psychology-we're lawyers. But, we've absorbed some lessons as we've observed our clients going through this process. We wrote this book to help you divorce in a smart way.